Does the length of your relationship determine the number of surprising turn-ons for your partner?
Whether you are single or happily married, just started into a new relationship or just had your 25th wedding anniversary, knowing what turns your partner on is, and can be a difficult problem to solve. The difficulty stems from the fact a woman’s turn-ons evolve. A woman’s sexual turn-on changes from the time you first meet to after you are married. This is no surprise, but what turns her on may surprise you.
Traditionally when thinking of a woman’s turn-ons we gravitate to stereotypical romance; flowers, candlelight dinners, long walks on the beach. While there is some merit to this, many studies have found men and women are ditching the candlelight dinners for things much more common in our daily routines.
How to Find Surprising Turn-ons for Your Partner
The typical turn-ons we read about in magazines and see on television are suitable only when you are in the act of having sex. For instance, while using foreplay to get both you both aroused, there is ample opportunity to caress your partner’s hair, to nibble on her ear and gently stroke the inner portion of her thigh. All gestures help to set the mood, increase intimacy and prepare both of you for the main show.
The only problem with this is getting to a place that you are both ready for sex. Everyday life leaves many people exhausted and sex is the last thing on their minds. So if romance doesn’t get you into a position for sex what does?
It’s not to say romance is no longer needed in your relationship, it’s the exact opposite of what we are saying. It is more about understanding where you can find the hidden turn-ons, to take your daily activities and use them to get your special lady sexually aroused.
So what is so sexy and about doing the dishes or having a cup of coffee with your partner?
Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, a couples therapist in Mt. Kisco, N.Y., and author of A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage says, “When a partner can count on these kinds of little loving gestures being ongoing, it makes for the kind of connection that’s necessary to have a relationship hang on through the good and the bad and all the crazy stuff.”
She adds, “Caring gestures make women feel good. Guys don’t realize how important they are for women when it comes to getting turned on in the bedroom. To connect physically, they need that emotional and mental connection.”
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