Looking for foreplay tips does not make you a bad lover. Whether we want to admit it or not we are creatures of habit.
Activities we do on a regular basis, chances are we have a set routine for how we do them. The same holds true for foreplay and sex. We know what turns us on, and if we’re in a long term relationship most likely know what turns our partner on too.
While this is great to know, if we continually use the same old thing to arouse each other before sex, there does come a point where it can stop working and reaching a bed-shaking, breathless finale becomes more difficult. “When you touch each other in a familiar way every time, your body becomes desensitized, and it won’t feel as arousing,” says Lori Buckley, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Pasadena, California.
In the interest of saving you time, we have consulted top foreplay experts and asked them for new ways to arouse the senses and have you on the brink of orgasm and coming back for more. What you will see are uncharted erogenous zones being missed on a regular basis and with these new foreplay tips, you’ll be able to enjoy them again and again.
5 Seductive Foreplay Tips
Erogenous Zone #1
The Ultrasensitive Border Around the Lips
We all know how you love the feeling of a great passionate kiss, but did you know there was more? There is actually an undercover pleasure transmitter, the buccal nerve, surrounding the edges of the mouth.
“This area is extremely sensitive to touch, but it’s often overlooked since most people focus on the plump part of the lips,” says clinical sexologist Rachael Ross, MD, Ph.D. If you try lightly tracing the tip of your finger around the edges of your mouth, you’ll experience a tingly, almost ticklish feeling.
To use this while making out, kiss as you normally do, then trace your partner’s lips very gently with the tip of your tongue. Don’t make it seem like you are liking their lips as that would be very strange, but you can trace their upper lip one time, kiss some more, then trace their bottom lip.
Erogenous Zone #2
Sexy Dip Where Neck Meets Chest
Most people love it when their partner kisses anywhere on their neck. The area from our jawline to our shoulders is one large erogenous zone, that is no secret, but there is one overlooked spot that will send goosebumps up and down your partner’s body. This little known area is where our necks meet our chest. “It’s that little indentation where the neck connects with the collarbone,” says Leah Millheiser, MD, director of female sexual medicine at Stanford Medical Center. “The skin is thinner there, and there’s not as much fatty tissue underneath, so the sensations are stronger.”
Touching this area with both your fingertips, tongue and lips all have an effect on the arousal of your partner. As you are kissing their neck you can trail your fingers down to this spot, twirling them ever so gently, then following your finger touches with kisses. Don’t forget to warm the area as well as this helps to increase arousal.
“The combination of the heat and touch relaxes the body, turning you on,” says Buckley. “Plus, when a man touches a woman here, her entire chest becomes more sensitive, including her breasts, which increases her pleasure.”
Erogenous Zone #3
Erotic Pathways on the Sides of the Torso
Stimulating your partner’s genitals without actually touching them does not require superpowers, it just requires knowing where to touch their body. By caressing and snaking your fingers from the bottom of your partner’s rib cage to their hips will stimulate a powerful nerve. This never is directly connected to a woman’s clitoris and a man’s penis. “When you touch this area, it reflexively causes the pelvic floor muscles to contract in both men and women, which increases arousal,” says Dr. Ross.
As this is a ticklish area for some people you will want to use a slightly firmer touch. You can alternate between stroking this area with your fingers and with your lips. The same applies if you are kissing this area, be a little firmer than you would normally kiss you so arouse your partner not tickle them.
“On a guy, you’ll actually see his testicles and penis contracting,” says Dr. Ross. “And a woman will feel the contractions in her vaginal wall and clitoral area as the same is done to her.” The arousal benefits are two-fold in that it feels amazing at the moment and increases the sexual anticipation for intense orgasms.
Erogenous Zone #4
The Pleasure Mound on the Lower Back
The knob at the base of our spine is full of nerves that offer major pleasure potential. A great way to access this area during foreplay is a rub down or an erotic massage. As you get the lower back switch to a softer touch and lightly caress and spiral your fingers over the base. “This area is so receptive, just the softest touch will send chills throughout the body,” says Dr. Ross.
Erogenous Zone #5
The Teasing Trail on the Thighs
The inner thigh is an area overlooked by many as their focus is on a more popular region. However, one of the most explosive nerves in our body is located at the top of the inner thigh. “It’s called the ilioinguinal nerve, and it’s incredibly sensitive to touch,” says Dr. Millheiser.
With the location of this nerve being where it is, our experts recommend leaving this area to the end of your foreplay. Very simply, what you will do is first wet your finger, as the wetness increases stimulation, and then slowly draw your finger from mid-thigh to the top. As with many of the other erogenous zones, follow the path of your finger with your tongue.
“Because the skin here is tender, it’s important to watch how your partner reacts,” says Buckley. “If they flinch, you’re exciting the nerve to the point where it feels too ticklish.” To resolve this simply apply more pressure and use a slightly firmer touch.
“Caressing this area indirectly stimulates the genitals since the nerves around it are firing pleasure signals to the brain,” says Dr. Ross.
With these new five areas and foreplay tips for you and your lover to explore and enjoy, we know you can break out of your foreplay routine and enjoy the many pleasures of these erogenous zones!