Has your sex life become more of a memory than reality? Has your busy scheduled with your career and the kids come between you and your husband? You are not alone if you answered yes and even though we tell ourselves that we want to have sex, when the opportunity does present itself, we are saying no more than yes.
As in any relationship there are reasons for how the dynamic is between you and your significant other. In this case having a low libido is stifling your sex life. Even though the love for your partner hasn’t changed the message that you are sending by not wanting sex can be perceived as the complete opposite.
Understanding why you have a low libido and what can be done is a topic that many women are finding themselves discussing with their girlfriends or even their doctor’s.
According to the 450-women survey, 27% of premenopausal women and 34% of postmenopausal women are very dissatisfied with their current level of sexual desire. And while more than 70% of those women say their relationships have suffered as a result, very few have sought help for it.
“The women in the survey didn’t even know [low desire] was an actual thing,” says Sheryl A. Kingsberg, PhD, professor of both reproductive biology and psychiatry at Case Western Reserve University School of Medicine in Cleveland and author of an upcoming Journal of Women’s Health article on the survey. “They didn’t realize that low sexual desire is a medically recognized condition with a name—Female Sexual Interest and Arousal Disorder—and that there are places to go for treatment.”
It is and there are, stresses Kingsberg—sort of.
Yes, Female Sexual Interest and Arousal Disorder is in the latest edition of the diagnostician’s Bible—the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, or DSM for short—and by all indications, it’s alarmingly prevalent. And while psychotherapy can be very helpful for women for whom flagging desire is psychological in origin, there are no FDA-approved drug treatments for low female sexual desire that’s biologically driven—no pink Viagras. And Kingsberg says, that makes many family docs loathe even to bring up sexual health during a routine exam. “They don’t have anything to offer patients, so the attitude is, ‘Why talk about it?’ ” she says. “Often, they don’t.”
There is a solution that has been used since 2001. Developed by Dr. Ronald Thompson, a gynecologist of more than 30 years, had similar issues in his relationship with his post-menopausal wife. They both wanted to remain intimate but her low libido was adversely affecting their relationship. Recognizing there was a need for help, Dr. Thompson set out to create a “Viagra” for women. The result was Alura Lux.
Alura Lux is a water-based topical cream that women apply directly to their clitoris. Alura Lux immediately stimulates the clitoris, increasing arousal, vaginal lubrication and desire. As Alura Lux is not a medication it has no side effects and is safe for women of all ages.
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