The thought that there is something out there that will make us happy is not new. In fact every day we are bombarded with what will “make us happy.” We see it on television, on billboards and online. Marketers play on our desires to get us thinking that with their product or their system will ultimately bring us happiness.
The truth of the matter is until you realize that none of this is what creates our happiness, you will constantly be chasing “it.” Whatever “it” may be you will spend the rest of your life chasing because the fact is your happiness comes from within. You are the only one that has the power and ability to make yourself happy.
To further highlight this fact look as some all too familiar scenarios. You are in college and you can’t wait to graduate so that you can start living your life the way you want. Then you graduate, fall in love and get married. Now married next you wait for child rearing years to complete you, but once the kids come you find yourself thinking how nice it will be when the kids are grown-up and out of the house. Finally once the kids are grown-up and moved out, your next stage is the excitement of retirement and the pattern continues.
What has just happened in this example? This fictional but average person has effectively wished their entire adult life away. Always waiting for that next big moment in their life to fulfill them and provide them with the happiness they so desperately want. Marriage, kids, stable and sufficient income, yet they are always waiting and wishing for more. What “it” will actually make them happy?
They are so wrapped up on external factors that will provide them their happiness they miss their life and happiness passing them by. Alfred D’Souza said “For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”
To put it another way, John Lennon said “Life is what happens when you are making other plans.”
Point is you have to be living right now. Live in the moment, not in the past and you can’t live in the future so you must live right now. Yes choices that you made in the past will be affecting your now, but you cannot change those choices you made. All you can do is live in the moment and make the choices that will provide your desired outcome.
Additionally if you continue to simply wait for the next event, next milestone in your life you will miss all the life between them. To create your own happiness you are the one that must decide that you are going to be happy. No play on words here, just a change in mindset. For some, a major change, but for others simply a refinement.
You decide what makes you happy by enjoying what you have today. The love that you are surrounded by, the riches that you have which cannot be advertised and in most cases are even difficult to quantify. For instance how do you quantify the feeling of gratitude from a child, or the passionate embrace of a lover? You can’t, but you can feel it and you can focus on how that feeling resonates with you. Continual focus on that feeling will bring you more of the same. It is the way our universe works. You will receive what you focus on. The more conscious we are that life consists of the journey, not the destination, the more likely we are to get the most out of it.
Ask yourself the question again of who determines your happiness and you will not only see, but more importantly you will feel the answer is clear. You do. Philosophers, poets, scientists all agree that happiness cannot be attained through money, prestige, or power. Happiness is not a fact it’s a mindset.
Create your happiness and live your life to the fullest as you enjoy the journey of life that we are all on.
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