To say relationships are dynamic is an understatement as the number of factors making the relationship work is almost too many to list. However, getting to the relationship stage takes on its own set of factors and sexual tension can be both a good and bad factor in the relationship.
In many cases, the raw physical attraction between two people leads to lustful, passionate sex, but falls short on the relationship side. If you are single and want the best of both – a great relationship with great sex, what can you do to find this in your life? How do you know when you meet someone and there appears to be a spark, it will lead to what you are looking for?
When this happens and you feel there could be something there, you need to test the waters and enter a new realm of the dating game. A sure-fire way of quickly testing is to create sexual tension between you and your new romantic interest.
Sounds like a great plan but you’re not sure how to do this. Here are some great ways to increase the sexual tension so you can see if the two of you are a good match before things get hot and sweaty.
Flirting is a great way to let someone know you’re interested. It’s also a great way to increase sexual tension between you and your new interest. You can take your flirting up a notch, and get a little more outrageous. You don’t have to get dirty; in fact, subtlety is apt to take you much further. Sexual tension revolves around subtlety – as you will see.
The Power of Touch
Touching is a fantastic way to create sexual tension. Again, you don’t have to go over the top – and indeed, you shouldn’t. It isn’t necessary to grope your crush at all, because once more, that’s not subtle. However, fingers along his or her cheek or jaw or through the hair, a finger against his or her mouth, even laying a hand on your crush’s shoulder will all telegraph your interest and create a definite spark.
Texting is a great way to increase sexual tension between the two of you. We’re not talking about sexting here – if you’re just crushing on someone, you don’t want to go that far. However, you can take flirting to a new level through texts, because it’s often easier to be a little bolder over a written medium. Face to face, you can get shy, but you can get feistier over text messages – as long as you keep it tasteful!
Eating is a wonderful technique you can use to create sexual tension. A sucker, a lollipop, even a piece of chocolate ala Cher in Clueless can draw attention to your mouth, and make your crush think of kissing you. Now, don’t get obscene with any of those phallus-shaped objects or anything – it’s not necessary. Eating is sensual all by itself, you don’t have to make it more so.
Think Before You Speak
Sometimes, the way you speak and the words you choose can create a lot of sexual tension. Finding reasons to call something “sexy,” “hot,” or even “sensuous” can get your crush’s motor going. On the surface, this is extremely innocent – it’s subtle and it can work wonders.
Don’t Cross the Line of Funny to Risqué
A lot of guys and girls alike appreciate a sense of humour. They find it sexy, and especially like it when someone they like can make them laugh. If you do this, it’s a fantastic way to increase sexual tension. You can be humorous and tell jokes that are a little risqué and off the cuff. Again, don’t get obscene, but if you have a dirty sense of humour, don’t be afraid to hint at it.
Subtle is Sexy
The best way to be sexy and to build sexual tension is to be subtle. Less is always more. You don’t want to let everything hang all out there, because that could be a turn-off. Besides, you want to make sure you two still have a lot to learn about each other. Subtle touches and teasing looks will go farther than the most obvious display.
Although there are many ways to increase sexual tension between you and your crush, it ultimately comes down to personal choice. You have to do what you’re comfortable with while making sure your crush will be comfortable as well.
As always we appreciate all your emails and comments. Do you have a special way you create sexual tension in your relationship to help spice things up? Feel free to share it with us as well as sharing this information with your friends.