It’s not any knock against him, it’s just something is missing sometimes that doesn’t allow you to have an orgasm. There is however one thing which can significantly improve your odds of climaxing every time.
Experts agree that the use of personal lubricants can make every aspect of sex more satisfying and enjoyable.
“With a little extra lube, every touch and thrust will feel smoother and more pleasurable,” says Eric Garrison, a consulting sexologist in New York City and Boston and author of Mastering Multiple-Position Sex. And because you’re wetter, your partner will feel more confident, which will inspire him to try new moves and positions.
With the thought of better sex in mind for both of you, we want to share why you should always have some of this special potion within reach of your bed.
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The O-Boosting Potential
We would all like to believe our bodies would provide all the natural lubrication required for pleasurable intercourse from the moment we start kissing and touching through the deed. Unfortunately, it’s not the case. “There’s a myth out there that if a woman is completely aroused, she’ll get wet and stay that way,” says sex therapist Debra Macleod, author of Lube Jobs: A Woman’s Guide to Great Maintenance Sex. “But the fact is that you can be turned on and either not get wet enough or even experience desert-like conditions down south.”
There are many reasons for this happening, medications or being slightly dehydrated can prevent you from producing enough natural lubrication. There are some instances women cannot produce enough fast enough to keep up with the action. If this is the case we all know from experience that penetration starts to become painful.
The use of lubricant doesn’t just prevent pain, it also allows you and your partner to maintain a steady rhythm most women need for orgasm. “When you’re wet, he can thrust continuously, and it’s easier for him to vary the speed,” says Macleod. “That extra stimulation will help build sexual tension and bring you to climax.”
Why He’ll Love it Too
Lack of vaginal lubrication doesn’t just affect us, it can have a physical and potentially psychological effect on our partner’s too. From the physical side of things, think about a hot summer day when we’re out shopping and our thighs stick together from the heat. Not a pleasant feeling so you can imagine what it’s like when your man tries to enter you when you’re not wet.
From a psychological point of view, it can be more traumatizing and affect his libido too. “While a guy may logically know that a woman’s wetness has nothing to do with his sexual prowess, subconsciously, he still may think he’s not good enough in bed to arouse her,” says Natasha Janina Valdez, a sex therapist in Los Angeles. “But lube lets him forget about that fear and focus on how good everything feels.”
Sexy Ways to Use It
At the top of the list of lubricants recommended by sex therapists and doctors is Alura Lux. Developed specifically for a women’s sexual needs, Alura Lux does much more than simply lubricate. Applied directly to your clitoris, Alura Lux increases the blood flow in the tissues of the clitoris and vagina. These effects are felt immediately, improving natural lubrication, sensitivity and the frequency and intensity of your orgasms. When used continuously, Alura Lux also helps women with a low libido such as that after menopause.
Incorporating Alura Lux into your foreplay is the simplest and sexiest way to apply the product. As it’s water-based and the effects are felt immediately, a small amount goes a long way. Alura Lux can be applied for direct stimulation or just before having vaginal intercourse.
Many couples have told us the addition of Alura Lux into their intimate lives has changed and improved in more ways than they ever thought possible. Here is what some of them are saying:
“I never used to go for quickies because it takes me a while to get wet, but with Alura Lux, we can jump-start the fun.” —Kate, 25
“I keep single-use packets in my purse. When I pull one out, my boyfriend has a Pavlovian response — he knows he’s going to get some action and becomes totally aroused.” —Laura, 32
“When I masturbate, I put a drop or two on my fingers before I start rubbing my clitoris. The wetness feels great against my skin and instantly the super-sensitivity instantly increases my pleasure and my mood.” —Stephanie, 23
“I’m obsessed with the kind that slowly warms up. When I first saw it, I was afraid it would make my crotch feel like it was on fire. Instead, it nicely warms both of us, and the tiny bit of heat adds a ton of intensity while we’re going at it.” —Amanda, 30
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