Can I Ever Enjoy Sex Again?
The topic of how to enjoy sex again is one that while taboo for some is on the minds of many. The frequency and way in which people think and talk about sex will depend on their experience. Sex should be an empowering and pleasurable experience, unfortunately for many women, this is not the case.
There is a large range of emotions that many women feel regarding sex, ranging from disappointment, frustration, sadness, and even anger about their lack of satisfying sex life.
Just as their range of emotions varies so too do the reasons. From how their bodies change after childbirth to the drastic change in their sex life due to menopause, while others have had relationship changes; either from a divorce or the passing of their partner. Regardless of the reason, there is hope and you do not have to give up and you can enjoy sex again.
Ready to Enjoy Sex Again?
The changes in your body, physically (including hormones) and emotionally as we go through life are very complex. This frequent topic of discussion and we will lay out some items that you can use to improve your sex life and most importantly your satisfaction.
Low Libido or Lack of Desire
Some women affected by low libido have stated they feel nothing; no interest or desire for sex at all. This can be very emotional as they love their partner and they desperately want to feel aroused they just can’t. Emotions of anger can also be underlying as they feel their bodies have betrayed them and sometimes even anger towards their partners as they are not understanding of their condition.
The anger can then stem fear, fear their partner will leave them. Leave them from a lack of intimacy and sexual satisfaction.
For women that have no desire, faking or tolerating sex is not an option as vaginal intercourse can become too painful. There are physical changes in the vagina that occur due to hormones that faking will not get around.
Other factors outside of hormonal changes that can cause women to have a lack of desire can be medications, stress, relationship issues, body image issues, negative beliefs about sex form during childhood, a history of abuse, and yes even fatigue plays a factor. If you are a woman that has a low libido the question will come down to what factor is causing it for you and what options do you have?
Boosting Your Libido
For women who have sexual abuse at the root of their low libido, it is vital for the individual and their partner to deal with the emotions involved. Creating a safe space may be required, to help control their negative associations with sex. This safe place will then be where they can be intimate and sexual.
If the issue comes down to fatigue, timing will be the factor that needs to change. All too often couples believe that bedtime is sex time, yet at the end of the day, many of us are just too tired to have sex. To alleviate this problem couples need to schedule morning or afternoon sex times when both parties have more energy. It may sound strange to schedule time to have sex, but changing the habit is what is required, and the conscious effort needs to be put forth. Once you have found times that work well for your sex life and schedule, you will be grateful you made the effort to schedule the time.
This effort must be made as there are many health benefits to you, your partner, and of course your relationship with healthy sex life. Feeling of closeness to your partner, stress reduction and physical satisfaction are just the tip of the iceberg for what sex, and more importantly being intimate with your partner, do for your mood and overall being.
The Pressures of Sex
Movies, magazines, and the internet all play into our perceptions of what sex is supposed to be. Many people take what they see as to how it must be and when their sex life, or more specifically their performance or their partner’s performance, doesn’t match up with their belief, thoughts of something being wrong enter into the equation.
For some women, the idea of being a bad lover causes them so much stress it overrides their desire to have and enjoy sex. For others, body issues or misconceptions of how long it should take them to have an orgasm overshadow their enjoyment and cause stress.
First and foremost what is seen in porn is not real and should not persuade you into thinking what should and shouldn’t be done in the bedroom. Secondly, the intimate moments between you and your partner are just that. Moments that you share together and by being open and honest with your likes and dislikes, you will both learn how to be great lovers to each other.
Never Give Up
Last on the list of how to enjoy sex again is the simple fact you are ready to. Reading this information signifies you want a solution and this is always the first step, seeking a solution. Changing up your routine with your partner is only the first step to helping you increase your enjoyment of sex again.
Self-exploration, through masturbation, with our without the use of a sex toy, allows you to intimately understand what turns you on, and what feels good. You can then convey this great information to your partner so your pleasure is now extended to your shared intimate moments.
Some couples feel awkward about the use of toys or other items while having sex. According to Joan Price, senior sexpert and author of “Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex,” a well-chosen and well-positioned sex toy can make a world of difference when achieving orgasm.
There is no need to be shy about the use of toys or lubricants that enhance your sexual pleasure. Items such as Alura Lux can be ordered online and shipped directly to your home, while the same holds true for many sex toys as well.
As you open up to the possibility that you will once again enjoy having sex you will find the solution that works best for you and your sex life.
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