By far the most frequently asked question we receive from men is “What is the best way to turn a woman on?” It’s understandable why this question is asked as compared to men, it does take most women much longer to become sufficiently aroused to enjoy sexual intercourse. For some women it can take up to 30 minutes, for others it can take even longer.
As men are aroused much quicker than women, most men are too quick to engage their partner’s genitals and can actually have a negative effect on her mood and level of arousal. To help men slow down and enjoy the entire process of sex, we have put together some erotic caressing tips to improve a woman’s sexual arousal and for you to understand the best ways of sexually arousing a woman.
9 Caressing Tips for Sexual Arousal
Every Square Inch
The entire body is a playground, so enjoy every square inch. Remember our skin is our body’s largest organ and is extremely sensitive to touch. For men who reach between their partner’s legs too soon, they are missing out on turning her on and may already be disappointing her before you even get started. Instead of focusing on the obvious areas, touch her entire body.
Slowly fondle her ears, her face, neck, shoulders, arms, the small of her back, her sides, the backs of her knees. All these areas, and everywhere else, can sizzle with erotic sensation and contribute to her responsiveness and enthusiasm as a lover.
A Little Coaching Please
As you are paying her entire body the attention it deserves don’t be afraid to ask her how she feels. Just make sure you ask in the proper way. Don’t ask questions that could elicit a simple “No” such as “Does this feel good?” A response of no means it’s not helping her mood and it’s not going to help you understand what does turn her on.
Instead, change the question to “Would you prefer a lighter touch here?” This way if she says yes, you can adjust accordingly. If she says no, you know you what you are doing is working. In addition to this, you can ask her to coach you. This helps to further reveal what she likes, puts her in control and also shows you are attentive to her needs.
Ticklishness Means Discomfort
As you are caressing her, pay close attention to and watch out for ticklishness. In lovemaking, ticklishness often means discomfort. Different women have different ticklish spots. But ticklishness may depend less on the spot than the way it’s touched. A finger tracing figure eights on a woman’s belly might feel ticklish, while a warm palm placed gently on the same area might not.
Subtle Art of Kissing
Kissing is one of the most intimate and personal experiences we share with our partners. It is an erotic touch on its own. “A kiss,” a wit once said, “can be a comma, period, question mark, or exclamation point.” There is an art in kissing your lady, and how you kiss her will not only affect her arousal, it will also speak volumes about you.
Just as you are taking time to caress her entire body, take time when you kiss her too. A passionate kiss can come in many forms and can involve your lips, tongue, warm breath and your hands all to make a kiss loving, erotic and sensual. The poet Percy Bysshe Shelley defined kissing as “soul meeting soul on lovers’ lips.” When you kiss her, put some soul into.
Breast Play: The Best Way
In pornography, the men often maul women’s breasts, squeezing them roughly and pinching the nipples. Big mistake. Breasts and nipples are very sensitive. Be very gentle with them, especially nipples. Caress them lightly with your fingers, lips, and tongue. Once aroused, some women enjoy somewhat firmer nipple caresses, perhaps even pinching. Check-in with her about when she likes what kind of nipple fondling.
Whole Body Sensuality
If the differences in arousal between men and women weren’t enough to cause confusion, the stereotypes and beliefs formed from pornography and movies further the problem. In the movies, a simple “Hello” is all that’s needed both parties are sufficiently aroused and start having sex. In the real world, that doesn’t happen.
One of the greatest feelings during foreplay is the anticipation it builds. As you are caressing your partner in all regions of her body other than her breasts and genitals, the anticipation of when you will touch her there increases her arousal. As men are aroused much quicker, most men will have to resist their own temptation and anticipation. Continuing to tease her with sensual and erotic touches will drive her to the point where she demands it. At that point you know she is aroused and ready.
Treat Everything with Care
Just as the time for proper arousal is skewed by pornography and movies so too is how men should treat a woman’s genitals. Many times you will see men pulling a woman’s vaginal lips to stimulate her, which unless your lady expresses she wants this, is a major mistake. You should never have to pull apart her lower lips because as a woman becomes sexually aroused, her lower lips will spread like a flower.
When initially caressing a woman’s external genitals (the vulva), try placing the palm of your palm between her legs, and pressing just a little, then invite the woman to dance on your hand, moving her hips in ways that stimulate her clitoris and give her pleasure. Once her outer and inner lips part, there’s plenty of time to caress, kiss, and lick her vulva and clitoris.
Be extra-gentle with the clitoris and ensure you never stimulate the clitoris dry. The clitoris has just as many touch-sensitive nerve endings as the head of the penis, but it’s only about one-tenth the size, so all those nerve endings are packed tightly together, and super-sensitive to touch. To further increase the pleasure of stimulating her clitoris, add a touch of Alura Lux, which further increases the sensitivity and sexual arousal.
When is She Ready for Sex?
Sexual arousal begins with increased blood flow into the genitals. In men, this produces an erection and in women, vaginal lubrication. However, some women don’t self-lubricate very well due to medications, stress levels, etc. Again the use of Alura Lux increases the blood flow to her clitoris and vagina increasing vaginal lubrication. Every woman is different as to when she is ready for intercourse, but if you have been caressing her correctly, and spending the time to caress her entire body, by the time you start stimulating her clitoris, her desire for you will be unbearable and she will tell you how much she wants you.
Last on our list of caressing tips is actually for after sex. Many women complain that after orgasm, men just roll over and fall asleep. Instead, explore post-orgasmic sensuality.
Hold each other close, see how post-sex cuddling can improve your relationship and actually increase the frequency of when you have sex. Kiss one another in unusual places. Try some light massage. Facial massage can feel wonderful, especially if you gaze into each other’s eyes. The fact is, “afterglow” is a misnomer. In truly sensual lovemaking, it should be called “et cetera.”