Couples which stand the test of time have ways to see through these differences and come out on the other side of them happier and stronger as a couple. While some would like to think every day is a good day for sex, and it can fix all, truth of the matter is, it may not be feasible to expect it every day, or is it the solution to all relationship issues. While intimacy, both physical and emotional, is an important factor in any relationship, there are many smaller factors that contribute to the level of intimacy the couple feels.
Day to day bickering, feeling as though you are stuck in a rut, inability to communicate are just some of major issues couples face that erodes intimacy and stops them from being happy and of course having sex. Thankfully all is not lost and we have found some ways happy couples overcome these things in their relationship before they become major issues.
As you will see, some of these tips you may already be using now and some may seem rather unconventional, but at the end of the day, our relationships evolve. Through this evolution we need to add new elements to further the growth in the right direction so don’t be afraid to use what you may find strange. Have fun with these and remember it’s for the good of your relationship.
- If you and your partner are indecisive about where to eat or what movie to watch, play the “5-3-1” game. One person names five choices, the other vetoes two of them, and then the first person eliminates the remaining two. Ta-da, no more “Where you do want to eat?” “I don’t care, what do you want to do?”
- The person who cooks shouldn’t do the dishes. It’s only fair! Chores for Two: Why Men Don’t Pitch In
- Every cohabiting couple needs a separate room with a door that shuts, even locks. This room can be used for napping, reading, listening to music, wrapping presents, having private phone conversations, or sulking. Privacy, Please! We’re Having Sex In Here
- Thank each other for everything. There’s no need to be effusive when someone takes out the garbage, but it’s nice to show and be shown appreciation for even the most everyday obligations.
- Don’t tell people that they’re wrong about insignificant things. For instance, if your guy says that Steven Spielberg directed Star Wars, laugh a little on the inside, but don’t tease him for not knowing it was George Lucas. And for the love of God, do not correct each other’s grammar in public.
- Speaking of being wrong, let it go when someone admits to being at fault, especially if it’s for something minor. One couple suggested that you play, “FailDance” where the person who was wrong has to perform a song-and-dance routine after apologizing. In doing so, you replace the resentment and “I told you so’s” with a silly moment the two of you can share.
- Think before you speak. Whenever a difficult conversation keeps you from phrasing your thoughts coherently, ask your partner to give you a moment instead of trying to fill up the silence with whatever it is you have to say. Saying the wrong thing is much worse than an awkward break in the conversation.
- Play the “He’s Not an A**-hole” game. Whenever you feel angry at him, imagine that you’re a novelist (or a movie writer) assigned to write a story in which the “a-hole” is the protagonist. That way, you’ll have to think of the situation from his point-of-view and make him sympathetic to readers and viewers.
Let us know what tricks you and your partner use to get through the less than exciting parts of your relationship in the comments section.
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